Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Oh Benny...

This is our Beloved dog, Eve. For me, she holds a place in my heart that will never be filled again. She was my Forever Dog. She died in January 2007 and I am still brought to tears when I think about her. It was my intention to never get another dog after LuLu lived out her days.

But... several months later I saw him in a pet store. Chai Tea was with me and tried her best to get me to hold him. I would not. I could not get out of there fast enough. He was in a pet store that we often went to to look at puppies because we thought we would never be tempted to buy one from there. It was a terrible place. We were wrong.
The next day Mr. Macchiato suggested we go look. I had not breathed a word to him about the rolly polly boy golden that was there. I agreed and the second I walked through the door I hoped he was still there. He was. He was asleep with his ear hanging down in his water dish. I ran to him and picked him up. I told Mr. Macchiato he breathed his magic puppy breath and I had to have him. The truth is... he worked his magic before I ever even smelled his puppy breath.
Mr. Macchiato, like me the day before, refused to touch him. Losing Eve had been so painful... We really couldn't afford to buy him. The rest of that day was spent going back and forth. I gave up and that night Mr. Macchiato told me I could get him the next day if he was still there.
Double Shot and I were there the second the shop opened. I noticed a sign on the wall that said you got a $100 discount if you paid in cash. I left Double Shot there and went to the bank across the street. We had a limit on how much cash could be extracted from the cash machine each day so I had to go into the bank and wait in line. Double Shot was frantic when I got back to the shop because I'd been gone so long and some ladies had been looking at Benny. He took him to another part of the store and hid until I could get there. It was his 14 year old way of protecting "our" dog.
Of course, we were all immediately in love. I was worried about training him and got him on a schedule right away. We all, even Mr. Macchiato, had scheduled "Benny Time" in which we got to play with him alone. He was potty trained in no time and brought great joy to our family.
LuLu, the grumpy old lady she was, loved him as well. She would get tired of his antics at times and let herself into her crate and then close the door with her paw. Benny would always lay down and pout when she did that. She also never liked for him to whine or cry. Whenever he did she would lift her nose high and start howling.

Benny adored LuLu. He followed her everywhere!

This is our favorite picture of the two of them together.
We all used to sit around and just watch them play. They were so funny!
They also spent a lot of time just hanging out next to one another. LuLu died just five days after Double Shot's parrot, Paco, died last June. Benny went crazy. Frappacino had driven down from college to be there when we put her down and had to go right back up. We took her out to eat and came home to a dog that had barked so much that all around his crate was soaked with his spit. We had to put the crate away and take him with us when we went places if we could. He eventually settled down and whenever we did leave him at home he waited on the couch looking out of our living room window.

In October, I brought Taffy home. My Mom breeds Shih Tzu's and we fell in love with Taffy when we visited in June of 2008. She was born the day after Benny was born. Benny was crazy about her from the get go. She, on the other hand, took some warming up. Of course, she weighs 8 lbs, he weighs 75 lbs and his exuberance was more than intimidating.

They love each other. In March, my Mom took Taffy back to Washington to have one last litter. Benny was obviously depressed but did not react at all like he did when LuLu died. We had intended to get Taffy back but my mother-in-law is moving in next month and she has a golden retriever... and I've been looking for a job... I just didn't know how so many people and three dogs in one house would work out, so I told my Mom we might not take her back.

Last month Double Shot and I went to see my Mom for ten days. Benny completely flipped out. It is so bad that I took him to the vet last week and he is on anti-anxiety medication. He will not pee until his bladder is so full he can't control it. I've even sent the Dog Whisperer e-mails. Our vet thinks he is a co-dependent type dog that needs to have another dog. He was upset that Taffy was gone and then all of a sudden two of his people just disappeared. My mother-in-law will be here in a few weeks with Browny... but he is an old retriever with problems. I'm afraid Benny will bond to him and then he will die. He's already bonded to Taffy so we will get her back and then if something happens to Browny, Taffy will help him get through it. We just don't know when we can work that out to get Taffy. So... for now, he's drugged twice a day. Not that that is helping much yet.
Good Lord. Who knew having a dog could get so complicated? Right now, Double Shot and I are the only ones Benny will go potty for. Last night I had to let him off leash in the park in the pouring rain and wait. I felt like I was back in the potty training days making a big deal out of him going potty and giving him a treat. It breaks my heart how he walks around all uncertain and shaking before he goes. We can't allow him out in the house much at all right now. He doesn't understand... Poor Booper.


Rusty's Mom said...

Poor Benny. If you haven't already take a urine sample to the vet to be tested. Anytime a dog or cat has a change in potty habits there is a possibility of a UTI. Stress can bring on a UTI so what started as just a stressed dog may now be a stressed dog who doesn't want to pee because it hurts. Hope he gets better no matter what. E

Oklahoma Granny said...

My heart goes out to Benny. Bless his heart. Hopefully when Taffy comes back things will be better for him.

Linda said...

OMG! Kelly! That breaks my heart!! Poor Benny. I cried when I was reading what you wrote about Eve. I don't even want to think about losing my Libby, although I know it is inevitable one day. Having dogs can be hard, but at the same time I think that the joy they bring makes it worth it. I'm praying for poor Booper to adjust!

Anonymous said...

Awww poor benny boops! Give him a big hug for me!

Trisha said...

Poor "puppy!" So much loss in his short life. I hope that you get Taffy back so that he can feel more comfortable again!

Just Me said...

Poor Benny! If Taffy can't come back right away, would finding him a doggie friend in the neighborhood help?

Good luck on the peeing issue.