Monday, August 25, 2008

I Don't Understand

The hospital still will not allow my niece to see my brother. She insists on going up to the hospital with her mother every day and she sits out in the waiting room all by herself while her mother goes in to see him. She says she just wants to get as close as she can. She's just a nine year old little girl! I just don't get it.

Tomorrow he is being moved to some head injury floor or something. And they are no longer going to allow any visitors at all. They are saying that they don't want him agitated and want him to just rest. I don't understand. My mom was going to go down this coming weekend but she won't be able to see him if she does.

He's been saying some weird things... like insisting he's being restrained when he isn't. Seeing things that aren't there... That can be from the meds, I'm sure. He's very agitated and gets angry when he's awake. We don't know for sure about brain damage... yes, he's talking and recognizes people but... sigh. This is really hard.

They also give no kind of prediction as to how long he needs to stay in the hospital.

16 comments:

Chris H said...

I can understand why the hospital won't let the wee girl see her Dad yet... he is volotile, agitated, not 'himself' and it would most likely really upset her and HIM... try to understand they are only doing what they feel is the best for both of them at this point. They have been dealing with people in this exact situation before, so have a lot of experience to call on. Tell your wee niece the facts... she will understand... as much as a 9 year old can anyway.

Kathy said...

I am so sorry he and your family are going through this. The uncertainty is dreadful, isn't it? I would have hated if I had not been able to visit Jerry when he was hospitalized with his heart attack! *prayers*

Just Me said...

Head trauma is a funny thing. Every injury is unique, and the hallucinations could be due to the trauma, the meds, or both. If he's on Demerol, that could definitely cause some very vivid hallucinations.

I guess they noticed that visitors are adding to his confusion. It stinks for all of you not being permitted to see him, but if the isolation is going to help him calm down and heal, it's the best thing.

jojo said...

It does seem rather confusing and especially to his daughter. I hope things improve quickly so she can at least talk to him. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

And Thank you....I NEVAH win anything and I l.o.v.e. Starbucks;)

Brenda said...

I don't know much about medical things but I'm sure with a head injury they must be so careful. I'll pray his recovery comes more quickly.

thislittlepiggy said...

Prayers being said. :o)

Trisha said...

Not a good thing. Does his move to another area mean his head injury is severe? Do they think he will have permanent damage? The confusion could be from the meds or the injury - depending on where he was injured.

I am glad that your neice is at least understanding that he is alive even though she is not allowed to see him. What about taking a video of him talking to her or a picture? That might help her a bit. And you can do it when he is "good" so she can see he is okay. Of course, if he can't have any visitors, making a video will be very hard.

MUD said...

Germy little kids are not allowed in a lot of hospitals. With his condition weak, a little cold could be a big deal. Take your camera and take pictures of her to him. MUD

Accidental Housewife said...

I don't really have anything to add about the hospital but I do about your niece. I think it would be most helpful to her and her mother to seek some professional counseling during this very difficult time. It will help them all deal with their emotions and fears. God bless your family and all it is going through at this time.

claudia said...

This has got to be so hard on all of you, but since I know nothing of hospital procedures and the like I would be wondering why along with you. All I can do is offer up prayers for your brother's quick and thorough recovery and strength for the family. Hang in there CB!

Flea said...

Oh sweetie. I'm so sorry. That would probably be really disturbing for a nine year old. Though not seeing him is probably as much so.

Memaw's memories said...

Prayers for your brother. I know this is a traumtic time for everyone. I'm sure they know what is best, but I'm sure it's very difficult.

Rosie : ) said...

Wow, this is not good news. I hope you get better news soon enough. As ofr your niece, it must be very hard to not get to visit him. It might be better in the long run that she doesn't see him "not like himself"?

Best thoughts sent your way...

Laura ~Peach~ said...

continued prayers... head injuries do odd things to folks... hopefully he will fully recover!
Big hugs LAura

Kathy said...

Hoping that your brother is progressing in his recovery. Hugs and Prayers

Roland Hulme said...

I do hope he has a swift recovery. I had a friend who recently had a severe head injury snowboarding and his recovery was long and tough, but he got there eventually (and is snowboarding again already.)